A QUICK PREAMBLE:
This well known phrase – which i generally found quite irksome as a much younger, much more impatient, more “pre-human” form of my later self, eventually became known to me as the perfect definition of our old friend (and enemy for some) “Adversity”:
“What Doesn’t Kill Me Will Only Make Me Stronger”
However and anyhoo, i recently came upon an another phrase, that doesn’t seem to be accredited to any specific individual, and which i have solidly adopted for my own purposes. It’s THE perfect phrase and as far as i’m concerned, is a perfect weapon against all adversity:
“Whatever Doesn’t Kill Me Had Better Start Running..!”
Nothing and nobody born, created or grown, on this planet, from the very beginning of time, has ever avoided the very natural and absolute constant that we know as “adversity”. The very stuff of life that will, on regular occasion, throughout your whole lifetime, challenge you physically, mentally and spiritually…
…and quite often all three of these areas at once, which will either ‘make’ you or ‘break’ you…and If you come to terms with the inevitability of adversities in your life and the choices that they ultimately force you to make, then surely you would only choose for it to ‘make’ you and NOT ‘break’ you…right..?!
CUTTING TO THE CHASE:
The dictionary written definition, expressed as a “noun”, is more like this:
Typical examples may be: a tragic death in the family or of a friend, your divorce, a motor accident, an illness (serious or minor), suffering a physical or mental disability, losing your job, failing an exam, overcooking (burning) the family meal, under-cooking the family meal, suffering a paper-cut, suffering a sunburnt schnoz (happens to me often), listening to the constant bark of a neighbours dog (happens to me REALLY often), etc. etc. etc!
All adversities, all your challenges, big or small, health-threatening or not, are all contributors to the character type that you eventually become, and if you want to be the truly happy and successful type, then here are a few tricks you should learn, so as to ensure that your adversities know that they had “better start running”.
All 5 of the following tips when combined, are a potent way of dealing with adversity, helping to ensure that whatever doesn’t kill you knows it had better start running as you intend staying on your chosen road and achieving your goals for success…
♦ There’s ALWAYS An End To Every Adversity…
Whether it’s a silly minor thing, a mildly uncomfortable situation or a heart-rending, never-to-be-forgotten-kicked-in-the-guts moment of your life…all moments of adversity, all life’s challenges come to an end…there is nothing that you cannot overcome with time, persistence and positivity.
Although you should never forget it, you can get past it and learn from it. Adversities are your teachers whilst on the way to bigger and better things – while you move ahead toward your life desires.
♦ Go With Your Gut…
Stop listening to others and start listening to your inner-self. Always trust your gut-feeling. You’ll be amazed by how often that intuitive, but persistent, “inner-voice” is right on-the-money. It’s a very efficient weapon for fighting against the wrong decisions that work against you and your chosen road ahead.
Others “opinions” in your moments of adversity while possibly well-intended, don’t always gel with how YOU feel you should handle the situation…
…and if you wanna read a little more on this subject then here’s a great article that i wrote some time ago:
♦ Your Goals – Not Your Gaols…
The word “Gaol” is actually a very old, now generally unused, ‘Middle English’ word meaning “prison”.
So what i’m saying here is quite simple: focus on your planned goals, not on the tough times you’re going through…that’s like choosing to stay in your grubby, tiny, prison cell even though the door is unlocked and your way out is clear?!
Focus hard on the good that’s left. Trust me when i tell you, from my own many experiences, there is always good to come out of ANY adversity and staying in the prison of that tough moment of adversity and dwelling on the negatives will NOT help you.
If you feel the need for more detail, here’s an article that delves into the importance of goal-setting:
♦ Laugh Whenever and Wherever…
Time is a great healer, but laughter is more often than not, the very BEST medicine for the trauma of emotional pain.
Find reason to laugh (or at least smile) at something, at least once every day…there’s always something to read in a magazine or something to watch, on TV or live somewhere and in our modern technological age there’s also plenty you can check out on the net.
Youtube is an excellent source of films, educational materials and short comedy sketches but there are a million other places where you can go to read or watch something that lightens your mood and keeps you in that all-important positive mindset.
From a personal point of view, any good old-fashioned slapstick gets me rolling on the floor in tears in no time at all and i especially find anything from Laurel & Hardy or Charlie Chaplain particularly hilarious…
…try NOT laughing at this short 5 minute scene from a 1939 Charlie Chaplain film…the real fun starts at about 1:20 into the film and it doesn’t matter how many times i watch it, it’s side-splittingly funny…enjoy…
A FINAL ANECDOTE:
You’re never on your own when faced with life’s adversities. Everybody, and i mean everybody, has to face them as they go through life…but you don’t have to let any of them bring you to your knees and keep you there.
You can get through and get past any adversity if you understand that it’s just another moment in time and another of one of life’s “tests”. Learn to laugh, learn to cope, learn from life’s harsh lessons and you’ll ultimately become stronger and go on to be the success that you’ve always dreamed you’d be.
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Here’s an excellent, on-topic poem from L.E. Thayer called “For Every Hill I’ve Had To Climb”…perfect:
For every hill I’ve had to climb,
For every stone that bruised my feet,
For all the blood and sweat and grime,
For blinding storms and burning heat
My heart sings but a grateful song—
These were the things that made me strong!
For all the heartaches and the tears,
For all the anguish and the pain,
For gloomy days and fruitless years,
And for the hopes that lived in vain,
I do give thanks, for now I know
These were the things that helped me grow!
‘Tis not the softer things of life
Which stimulate man’s will to strive;
But bleak adversity and strife
Do most to keep man’s will alive.
O’er rose-strewn paths the weaklings creep,
But brave hearts dare to climb the steep.
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Carpe Diem, Be All You Should Be
Peter EC Kirwan